Guess who’s pictures I am editing?
It’s hard to believe I have my own senior this year.
I don’t know..
maybe because I have so little time left
with my children at home,
maybe because I feel like I haven’t been enough,
or taught them enough,
or done enough,
but the other night,
I was thinking of things
I wanted to say to them,
things I want them to remember.
So, I started writing.
This, a letter to my children,
a letter of things I have learned
(am still learning).
A letter I plan to keep adding to.
My greatest wish is for them to learn
some things that have taken me years to learn,
to grow in grace,
and love God above all else,
with all their heart,
because therein lies the truest joy and happiness.
- Make Christ the center of your home. A family centered around Him can only be happy. Seek Him first in all things and he will give you the desires of your heart.
- Remember the first and greatest commandments, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength, and love your neighbor like yourself.”
- My prayer is that you turn ever more to God during those difficult times in your life. These are the crossroads. You can choose to become bitter and hard during hard times (which only leads to destruction and pain), or you can choose to seek God, which brings so much peace of mind and happiness.
- Never name call. It’s hurtful. Remember “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can really harm me.”
- Learn the 5 Love Languages. Then you will know what says “LOVE” to those around you. It will help you understand the people in your life. Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
- Learn compassion. Care for others. Christ first. Others second. You last.
- Never say you don’t care. Because you will then cease to care. And not caring is scary. You need to deal with your feelings, your emotions. The truth is, you really do care, and when you say you don’t, you only lie to yourself. Lying to yourself is the worst. If you aren’t honest with yourself, how can you be honest with others? You won’t. And you have no character if you don’t have honesty.
- Being grateful for the little things and being thankful a million times daily brings the greatest happiness. Try it, and you will be spoiled to that wonderful feeling. Thank God always for everything. Every time something makes you smile and every time you feel good about something, thank God for it. All is grace. All is gifts. From the One who loves you. Learn to see the world through the eyes of a little child, where all is new and exciting. It’s so easy to get so used to everything we see and experience. Learn to see life with fresh eyes, and the world becomes an exciting gift. A new day is the best gift of all. Appreciate it. Cherish it. Live it fully. Thank God for it. We only have now. Learn to live in this moment. Being thankful is the only way to truly do this. Read One Thousand Gifts. So good.
- Study the Word. During the hard times in your life, God will be able to use Scriptures you’ve hidden in your heart to help and comfort you. Even Jesus, when he was tempted by the devil fought back the devil with Scripture, and the devil had to flee. God’s Word is more powerful than any two-edged sword. I’m thankful that I had the opportunity to learn and memorize so much Scripture as a child, both in my home (through my parents), at church, and even at school. I wish I had worked with you more to get it in your heart and life.
- Marry someone whom you have great chemistry with, who loves God more than anything, who loves you very much, and treats you with the greatest respect.
- Don’t ignore the red flags in a relationship, and don’t ignore the nagging feeling that something doesn’t seem quite right. God puts those feelings there for a reason, to help us know when a relationship isn’t quite right. He has someone better for you. Trust him. Ask him to guide you. It’s much better to end a relationship now rather than later when there are children involved, and a lot of hurt people.
- Learn the 5 dimensions of chemistry. If you don’t have this in a relationship, get out, before it’s too late. A quick summary from Is He Mr. Right? by Mira Kirshenbaum: Dimension 1: You feel so comfortable with each other and it’s easy to get close, even if you’ve been apart for a while, kinda like being with your best friend (relaxed, comfortable, close, connected, and at ease) Dimension 2: You feel safe being in a relationship with this person. Feeling safe means the things they say and do don’t hurt, or scare you. You can be who you are, without hiding it, and feel accepted. Dimension 3: You feel it’s fun to be together. It’s easy to have fun together, and you have a lot of it. Dimension 4: You have real affection and passion for each other. There’s a lot of affection verbally, emotionally and physically. Dimension 5: There is real mutual respect for each other. You need to be able to see their faults, and yet still respect them. Contempt is the opposite of respect, and the arsenic of love.
- Save yourself for your soul mate. Then you won’t have the ghosts from your past in your head, interfering with your marriage commitment. Keep yourself pure. You’ll not be sorry.
- Always take your problems with your spouse behind closed doors. There is no good that comes of fighting in front of children. It makes them feel bad, and even scared.
- You can be content in any circumstance. Paul (Saul from Tarsus) learned this. He was beaten, thrown in prison and yet, he wrote, “For I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.
- Be the kind of person who keeps learning throughout life. Don’t become mentally lazy. You are so smart. Keep learning. Always.